Understanding the Signs, Impact, and Pathways to Uncovering and Healing Repressed Emotions 

We all carry emotional baggage—unresolved conflicts, painful memories, or thoughts we’d rather not revisit. But for some, these emotional experiences aren’t just avoided; they’re buried so deeply they seem to disappear altogether. Let’s be honest, unless you’ve lived under a rock since Freud was fantasizing about his mother, you’ve likely already heard of the term “repression”.

Whether in Psych 101 or from your favourite TikTok therapist, it’s a foundational term when it comes to understanding mental health. And while it’s great that there is wide adoption and awareness, sometimes mass adoption can lead to generalizations, misunderstandings, and even misinformation—we hope to fix that.

In this article, we’ll explore the signs of repression, why it happens, how it affects our brain and body, and what we can do to safely uncover and release what we’ve been holding in. If you've ever felt “stuck” without knowing why or struggled to access certain emotions or memories, this article will offer both understanding and a roadmap forward.

What Is Repression?

Repression is an unconscious psychological process where distressing thoughts, memories, or feelings are pushed out of conscious awareness. Unlike suppression, which is a deliberate act of avoiding certain thoughts, repression happens automatically, often as a protective response to emotional pain, trauma, or internal conflict.

Sigmund Freud, the founder of psychoanalysis, first introduced repression as a central defence mechanism in human psychology. According to Freud, repressed content doesn't disappear—it remains in the unconscious, influencing behaviour, relationships, physical health, and emotional well-being.

Today, modern research supports aspects of this theory, though it’s been refined through neuropsychology, trauma studies, and cognitive science.

For further reading on how we select, encode, and recall memories, check out our article: Autobiographical Memory: How Your Personal History Shapes Your Sense of Self

Why Do We Repress?

Repression is most often a learned adaptation to emotionally overwhelming or unsafe environments. Common roots include:

• Childhood trauma or neglect: Children who grow up in environments where emotions are invalidated or punished learn to push those feelings down to maintain attachment or safety.

• Cultural or family norms: In some households or cultures, emotional expression—especially vulnerability or anger—is considered a weakness.

• Shame and guilt: People who internalize shame (e.g., from abuse, identity-based discrimination, or moral conflict) may repress to avoid the emotional pain of self-judgment.

• Survival: In moments of trauma or crisis, repressing emotion can help individuals function, but it often becomes a default mechanism long after the danger has passed.

In adulthood, repression can continue as a strategy to avoid painful truths, maintain self-image, or keep relationships intact. However, the longer feelings remain unprocessed, the more power they gain in the unconscious, driving behaviour, mood, and even physical health.

How Repression Affects the Brain and Body

When emotions are repressed, the brain and body must work overtime to keep them out of conscious awareness. This constant suppression can cause chronic stress in the nervous system, dysregulated emotion, and long-term dysfunction in areas responsible for memory, reasoning, and emotional regulation.

Some of the neurological and physiological impacts include:

• Amygdala hyperactivation: The amygdala—the brain’s emotional alarm system—can become overly reactive, perceiving even neutral situations as threatening.

• Prefrontal cortex inhibition: The Prefrontal Cortex is the part of the brain responsible for rational thought and decision-making. Research shows that this region is less engaged when there is emotional repression, making self-reflection and impulse control more difficult.

• Elevated cortisol levels: Chronic stress from unprocessed emotions can elevate cortisol, contributing to fatigue, immune suppression, and inflammation.

• Somatic symptoms: Headaches, digestive issues, chronic pain, or fatigue often appear in clients with a history of repressed trauma or emotion.

Signs of Repression

Repression can be difficult to spot because its effects are often misattributed to other issues. Below are expanded signs that repression may be at play:

Emotional Signs

• Persistent anxiety or panic attacks

• Depression or emotional numbness

• Feeling disconnected from emotions or unable to express them

• Mood swings or emotional overreactions

• Frequent anger outbursts without clear triggers

• Becoming defensive when asked about your feelings

• Avoiding reflection or shutting down when emotions arise

• Engaging in subconscious distraction (e.g., scrolling, drinking, overworking)

Physical Signs

• Chronic fatigue or exhaustion with no clear cause

• Headaches, migraines, or muscle tension

• Digestive issues like nausea or stomachaches

• Sleep difficulties, insomnia, or nightmares

• Cardiovascular issues such as high blood pressure

• Weakened immune response

Behavioural Signs

• Passive-aggressive communication

• Avoidance of emotional intimacy or vulnerability

• Difficulty setting or respecting boundaries

• Self-destructive habits like substance use or bingeing

• Disconnection from long-term goals or interests

• Seeking constant distraction or stimulation to avoid stillness

Other Indicators

• Memory gaps or difficulty recalling parts of your life

• Disproportionate emotional responses to minor triggers

• Feeling emotionally "flat" or detached

• Forgetfulness or zoning out during emotional conversations

• Feeling calm or "fine" in ways that feel hollow or numbing

• Stress without a specific, identifiable cause

• A strong need to control your environment or others

Many of these signs are commonly misread as personality traits or unrelated health issues. But when they appear in clusters — especially alongside relational or emotional

The Costs of Repression

Over time, repression can lead to serious challenges in adulthood. It distorts our autobiographical memory — our internal narrative of who we are — creating inconsistencies between our past experiences and present behaviours.

This can result in:

• Emotional dysregulation: Repressed emotions tend to erupt in unpredictable ways, such as outbursts, panic attacks, or disproportionate emotional responses.

• Blocked identity development: Without access to authentic emotion, it's difficult to know who you are, what you want, or what you truly need.

• Relational strain: Repression often leads to emotional unavailability, misunderstanding, and unmet needs in relationships.

• Mental health symptoms: Repression is linked to depression, anxiety, chronic stress, and dissociation.

Additionally, it can lead to:

• Self-sabotaging behaviour

• Difficulty trusting others or oneself

• Recurring relationship problems

• Chronic stress or burnout

• And a fragile sense of self

According to a 2007 study in Psychological Science, people with higher tendencies toward emotional repression showed lower emotional awareness and higher physiological stress markers. Repression doesn’t resolve distress — it simply buries it, often amplifying its effects over time.

Healing Repression: How to Reconnect with Your Emotions

Healing from repression involves gradually bringing unconscious material into conscious awareness in a safe setting, with appropriate support. Here are evidence-informed strategies:

1. Therapeutic Support

Working with a trauma-informed therapist can help gently uncover repressed content in a way that doesn’t overwhelm your system.

Approaches like:

• Psychodynamic therapy: Helps bring unconscious patterns to light.

• Internal Family Systems (IFS): Helps clients dialogue with inner “parts” that protect and hold repressed pain.

• Somatic therapies: Connect emotional experience with physical sensation for release and integration.

• Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): Supports trauma resolution by reducing the emotional intensity of repressed memories.

2. Mindfulness and Interception

Rebuilding emotional awareness begins with learning to stay present with your inner experience, without judgment. Grounding practices that reconnect you to your body can be especially effective, such as:

• Body scanning to observe physical sensations and areas of tension

• Noticing urges or impulses without immediately acting on them

• Identifying and releasing muscle tension held unconsciously in the body

• Practicing mindful breathing or eating to anchor your attention in the present moment

These small acts of awareness help you tune in to your emotional state with curiosity instead of criticism, laying the foundation for deeper self-connection.

3. Psychoeducation

Understanding how the nervous system responds to trauma and repression gives you language and structure to interpret your experiences. Reading and reflecting are key steps toward awareness and healing.

4. Naming and Validating Emotions

Research shows that naming emotions (“affect labelling”) reduces amygdala activity and increases emotional regulation. Saying “I feel sad and rejected right now” can reduce emotional charge and facilitate clarity.

5. Journaling and Reflective Writing

Writing freely without censoring yourself can reveal unconscious themes. Prompts like "What am I afraid to admit to myself?" or "When did I first feel this way?" help uncover patterns.

6. Body-Based Practices

Repressed emotions often live in the body. Mind-body modalities such as yoga, breathwork, or even simple stretching can help identify and release tension or discomfort in the body that holds emotional residue.

7. Build Safe Relationships for Emotional Growth

Reconnecting with your emotions starts with safety, and safety is built through connection: with yourself and with others. The recommendations above are great ways to build a better connection with yourself. But how can you build a better connection with others? 

Begin by practising emotional honesty with people you trust. Let yourself be seen without shame. When your feelings are witnessed with care, your inner experience becomes valid and real, even to you. If certain relationships repeatedly dismiss or shame your emotional growth, it may be time to set clear boundaries. And if those patterns persist, stepping back might be necessary. This isn’t about blame or avoiding hard conversations—it’s about protecting your healing. Sometimes, growth means letting go of old dynamics to make space for healthier ones.

Book Recommendations

We’re offering a small library of recommendations today, but with a subject as important as this, it only feels right. Healing is possible, but it is different for everyone. Below are books that may offer guidance and support, wherever you are. And if not, no one has ever been worse off for reading a good book.

1. “It Didn't Start With You” by Mark Wolynn

Best for: Understanding inherited trauma and emotional repression passed through generations

Wolynn explores how repressed pain, grief, or trauma from our parents and grandparents can unconsciously affect our thoughts, behaviours, and emotional patterns. He provides practical tools (like the Core Language Map) to trace symptoms back to their unconscious roots and begin the process of healing what was never spoken.

2. “Radical Acceptance” by Tara Brach

Best for: Gently uncovering and embracing repressed emotions with mindfulness and self-compassion

Tara Brach, a psychologist and meditation teacher, offers a mindfulness-based approach to healing emotional pain rooted in shame, fear, or abandonment. She guides readers through the process of recognizing and accepting repressed or avoided parts of the self, so healing can begin from a place of safety and non-judgment.

3. Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine

Best for: Somatic approaches to releasing repressed trauma from the body

Levine’s work is foundational in somatic psychology. He explains how trauma is stored not just in the mind but in the nervous system, often in ways we can’t verbalize. This book introduces Somatic Experiencing (SE), a method to gently release stored survival energy and trauma-related emotions without re-traumatization.

4. “The Drama of the Gifted Child” by Alice Miller

Best for: Exploring childhood repression and emotional neglect in otherwise "functional" families

Alice Miller exposes how many children repress their true emotions—especially anger, sadness, or need—for the sake of pleasing caregivers. Her psychodynamic insights reveal how this repression continues into adulthood and affects relationships, self-worth, and mental health. This book is especially powerful for those with perfectionism, people-pleasing tendencies, or emotional numbness.

5. “No Bad Parts” by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz

Best for: Working with inner conflict and repressed "parts" of the self

The founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Schwartz introduces a compassionate, trauma-informed way to explore the parts of ourselves that hold pain, fear, shame, or anger, often repressed in order to survive. This book is accessible and offers practical ways to begin healing through internal dialogue and self-leadership.

Related Resource from VMA Psych

Want to explore how repressed emotions might be showing up in your day-to-day life? Read our article Grounding Techniques for Everyday Calm.

It offers practical ways to reconnect with your body and emotions—an essential step when working with repression.

Moving Forward: Healing Is Possible

At VMA Psych, we know life can feel overwhelming. Balancing your mental health alongside work or school, family, relationships, housing, the economy, and whatever the internet is panicking about this week—is a lot.

We may not have answers for all of it, but we can promise this: you don’t have to navigate your mental health alone. We’re here, and we care.

(Also, go drink a glass of water—you’re probably dehydrated.)

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